SNIFFIES, GRINDR, SQUIRT - OH MY!!

Because I'm so new to this world, I really don't know anything about dating apps.  I don't know much about dating apps for heterosexual relationships!  I grew up in a time before dating apps (or more accurately, location based hookup apps, as I've heard them described) so I don't really know what purpose they serve.  If only looking at the straight world, are guys looking for wives on these things, or just a fun night? 

I know it's not that black and white - I'm sure some are looking for long term relationships.  And I personally know some people who are now happily married who met on Tinder.  But because I don't really know the etiquette, mentality or protocol behind straight dating apps, I sure as hell don't know any of that in regards to gay apps!

I've known of Grindr for years, but have never looked into it.  Again, I've only really been "brave" enough to dip my toes into this world in the last month or so, even though I've been thinking about it for decades.  As I've said in a previous post, I pretty much only watch gay porn  -  because of the butts! - and I kept seeing ads for Squirt.org pop up,  but didn't pay much attention.

It wasn't until I started seeing ads for Sniffies that I finally thought - fuck it, I'm gonna create a profile.  If you don't know it, it's a sleek looking location based app where you can create a profile (either full or anonymous), and see other guys around your location.  It's free at first, but of course, there's a paid option which opens more features.  It was interesting to see how many guys lived around me that were looking for a hookup, but is that what I wanted?

Almost immediately, even without a picture in my profile, I was being contacted by guys wanting to hookup right away.  And while I'm not sure of the exact type of hookups they were after, I don't think it was cuddling.  I was asked immediately if I was a top or bottom.  Asked if i liked uncut dicks.  One guy was like "i'm gonna be in your area in an hour - let's fuck".  It was so overwhelming - I have never done ANYTHING with a guy - how would I know if I'm a top or bottom?  And I don't even remember the last time I've seen a real dick outside of porn.  So, I couldn't really engage with these guys because I don't think I was what they were after.  Nor were they what I was after.

As I looked at more profiles, I started seeing other straight guys, looking to experiment, wanting to keep things discreet - all things that I too wanted to do.  I've since reached out to few, haven't really got any replies.   But there was one who did, and it did something to me I never expected.

It was the first man I reached out to.  In other words, it felt like it was my first time making a move on a man.  Sure I had replied to others, but this was the first time I instigated a potentially sexual conversation with another dude.  I was honest, said I was new to this whole world, and related to a lot of what his profile said (straight, discreet, inexperienced, like I said above), and the best part was, he wasn't an anonymous profile.  He had a pic of his body.   And he was fucking hot.

My heart was racing as I was typing to him.  Even though both of us were behind screens, in my head it felt so intimate.  I was telling him things about myself that I have never told ANYONE.  It's old news now, but he was the first guy I ever told that I love men's butts.  He replied, and was telling me about his experiences, how it was all new to him but he's actually done stuff with other guys already, and hearing it all was turning me on so much.  It was better than porn.  And even though it was coming from a nameless, faceless (but a killer bodied) man, I felt so close to him. 

Based on our discussion, I don't think he's into me sexually.  Meaning we're probably never going to meet up.   But - if he was, how would I go about instigating it?

Which leads to my question for this post:  what apps do you use, and do you use them JUST for anonymous hookups?  Are ones better than others if you're actually looking to build a bit of a connection before diving in and experimenting?  If you're straight an have used an app to meetup with a guy, how did you do it, and how was the meetup? How did you feel after?

Right now, I only exclusively use Sniffies (this is not an ad) but am willing to try more apps if they serve the purpose that I'm after - more of a trusting connection vs. a deep dicking (I'm not there.....yet).

Let me know your app success, tips and tricks, etiquette, especially if you're using them more for connection or exploration purposes! 

Thanks in advance for any advice.